I wanted to reblog this post because as a survivor I have many triggers. One trigger that I had was hearing the garage door going up or down. When my husband was here I knew that when I heard that door go up that meant he was home and the terror began. So for a while every time that door moved I was triggered. But one day I shared my fear of the garage door on Twitter and Tamara Bess LMFT saw it and sent me a link to one of her post on triggers. Her act of kindness helped me tremendously and I am no longer triggered by the sound of the garage door. I replaced the feeling of fear by redirecting my thought at that very moment with a good memory, a memory and feeling from a happier event. So every time I heard that door go up I thought of the happy thought. & abra cadabra it worked. I’m no longer triggered by that door.
I’m saying all this to say even after we leave our abusers we still carry with us triggers, fears and many different challenges on the road to healing.
I ask everyone to do what you can know matter how small to help out survivors of any abuse.
I want to send a heartfelt thanks to Tamara Bess LMFT for her act of kindness that helped this survivor make a giant step toward healing.
And to SecretAngel for creating the original blog that prompted me to share a bit of my story with others.
What I’ve learned is that we are on this earth to do Gods work and when we each do what we can for someone else we are Him.
That’s one of the greatest lessons I’ve learned.
Okay, I’m out.
Please excuse all errors grammatical or any others. I’m working on that part of me too.
Too many people do notĀ understandĀ the effects of abuse and trauma on itās victims. The triggers that remain are very real and can be debilitating to itās victims. (See the attached blog postings)
TRIGGERS are realā¦
with painful memories of the pastā¦
with fear and panic that ariseā¦
like the blow of a shotgun blast.
But too many donāt understandā¦
for they have not walked in our shoes..
so they canāt even comprehendā¦
cause they may never have been abused.
But those who have experienced itā¦
know their triggers and itās effectā¦
for C-PTSD in abuse victimsā¦
is more common than most expect.
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Financial Abuse is Domestic Violence 
Thank you. Just. . . Thank you. God bless. ā¤ļø
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So happy š that you found a way to overcome that triggering fear..
It can be very crippling.. emotionally..
thanks for sharing your story…
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Thanks exoticnita54, I am too. I was grateful that someone just so my struggle through a tweet and offered to help. God answered my prayer through an act of kindness from a total stranger…just wow! What she told me to do was so simple all I had to do was practice it everyday everytime I heard the door instead of going to a place of fear I switch the thought to a happy one & “poof” the trigger stopped. Blessings to you.ā¤
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And to you.. dear lady..
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Hey, Lady J! Thank you so much for your lovely comments about that day I saw your tweet! Iām thrilled that it helped! That post can be found at: http://2btru2you.com/2016/03/23/ptsd-trauma-brain/ Thank you so much for sharing! I’m doing everything I can to raise awareness and education for women who have or who are being abused. This work is SO important! So many women don’t realize that they can heal. That there are real solutions. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with me and for allowing me to help in some small way. š
I just started a closed support group for women on FB (https://www.facebook.com/groups/2btru2youSupport/)
Tamara Bess, LMFT
http://www.2btru2you.com
http://www.CenterForHealthyRelationshipsLA.org
(Offering local services in South Pasadena, CA and Online therapy for California residents)
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Tamara I’m so glad you found my blog. I feel like what you did for me truly started me on the path to healing. Everyday I struggled with sound of that garage door any door meant evil was coming and I needed to get ready. I lived in hypervigilance & it kept me from getting anything else done. I wanted you to understand how that one act of kindness meant so much to me. I also wanted you to share your contact information so you could be contacted if someone wanted to reach out to you.
In the beginning of this journey I contacted 23 attorneys not one would help me, no money, no help to bad
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I’m so glad I helped! ā”ā”ā” So glad we “met” on Twitter. Keep up your amazing healing journey.
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Praise God,
Tamara so am I.ā¤ā¤
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*I hit send before I finished my thought again.
In short no money no help. One attorney told me he couldn’t help me because he didn’t work for free. He had to feed his family. I told him I was trying to be able to feed my self too. What if you “Tamara”had looked at my tweet with the same attitude, I wouldn’t have had this problem solved.
I won’t continue to ramble on I just wanted to say thank you and I wanted to share your contact information with anyone out there who may want to reach out and contact you.
God bless you,
wait.. one more thought we are representatives of Christ and we do what we can for others no matter how small we are sharing His love thru us to them.
Another great lesson I’ve learned on this journey.ā¤ā¤
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